Which one feels most alive? Which one feels most aligned with your values and goals? Which one gets you most excited?Īnd, what is one small step that you could take toward the path that speaks to you most? NAME THE GREMLINS. Path 3: an entirely different option - or the “if anything were possible option.”Ĭheck in with each of these three paths. Path 2: a slightly modified version of the path you’re on right now. Write out three possible paths for your life, in 5-10 year chunks. What decisions led her to where she is today? What advice might she give us knowing what she knows now? This process involves consulting our older self and asking about the questions that are are pondering today. This is the version of us who is 5, 10, 20, or maybe even 30 years older. Often we know more than we think we do, if we get quiet and tune in. What do you notice? What are you surprised to see on paper? Then, when you’re finished writing, you can go back and revisit what you wrote. Write down whatever comes up, without thinking about it or filtering it or wondering whether it’s real or not - just write it down. Write out the question you’re currently considering, and write out whatever answers come to you, without filtering or judging the responses.įor example, you might write: “what do I really want?” and then allow yourself to write down whatever comes to you as an answer. Pay extra attention to how you feel as you sit with each one. Is there another option C that could exist that you might not have thought of before? For example, pursuing your passion as a side hustle while staying in your current job? Or, exploring a role change within your current company? Try each of these on as well and notice what emerges. What do you see in each of these scenarios?Īnd then, after exploring options A and B, push yourself to think about a third path. For example, if you’re considering whether or not to leave your current job, you might imagine yourself staying in your current job, and leaving your current job. Imagine yourself in the different scenarios at hand. And then, consider: what would she do? EXPLORING… TRY ON THE DIFFERENT OPTIONS. Who are you when you are at your best? When you are operating from love, versus fear?Ĭonnect to that version of yourself. In these situations, I often use a variety of tools and systems to explore the different possibilities at hand, to help lead me to the best decision based on the information I have at the time. ![]() There are timelines and deadlines and normal life constraints that aren’t always conducive to waiting for an answer to appear. In the rhythm of normal work and life, it’s not always possible to wait around for this moment of instant clarity to strike. While I was sitting inside of an office, there was a moment in which I swear I saw the clouds part and a big ray of light shine through, at which point I said, “my last day will be May 1st.” Once again, there was no decision - just a deep sense of knowing, and the words came out of my mouth from what felt like a source greater than myself.Īll of this clouds parting, light shining through, voices from above type of clarity is great, but it means that decisions can be incredibly challenging for me when this isn’t present. The same thing happened the day I put in my notice at my job. My friend just looked at me with a knowing smile. When my friends arrived to pick up their dog, there were two dogs, instead of one. ![]() There was no decision - just a deep sense of knowing. ![]() When I met him, I knew on an intuitive level, long before I knew on a conscious level, that he was my dog. As if the words had come to me from somewhere outside myself, I asked if I could meet him. I had been picking up two friends’ dog from doggie daycare when I saw his face on a crumpled up flyer, taped to the front counter. And precisely one week after saying this, I had a dog. In fact, I’d just said to a coworker the week before, “It’s amazing to me that single people get dogs, because I imagine that they really inhibit your freedom!” I was single. When I adopted my first pup, I wasn’t looking for a dog. Many of the answers to the biggest questions I’ve ever asked myself have come to me intuitively, which meant that I really didn’t need to decide, because I just knew. Confession: I am not always good at making big decisions.
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